Abbess Thaisia, Letters to a Beginner, p. 47
Commit yourself, I repeat, without defence to the will of your [spiritual] guides – give way to them, like clay to the potter, like iron to a smith; let them mold and hammer on the forge of obedience (as was expressed by St. John, author of the Ladder) your unruly and proud will, until it will be ground into the soft wax of humility, so that with understanding and discernment you may repeat the words of the Psalmist: “In our humiliation the Lord remembered us” (Ps. 135:23), or, “It is good for me that Thou hast humbled me, that I might learn Thy statutes (Ps. 118:71). You see, then, the statutes of the Lord, ie. the things pleasing to the Lord, are not learned without humility and self-abasement. Ten virgins at midnight awaited the arrival of the heavenly Bridegroom, but only half of them were received into His chamber; and the others, who had no oil in their lamps, to their shame and grief were not only not admitted into the chamber, but also heard the terrible words of the Bridegroom: “Verily I say unto you, I know you not” (Mt. 25”12). Beware less this lack of oil be found also in you as a lack of humility and obedience, without which your lamp of faith and supposed zeal will die out.